The days of being a spiritual mentor in Meiman

Chapter 3090

After the bonfire party, everyone cleaned up the debris on the ground. This time, they learned to be smart. The majority of the team went back to the Stone House first, leaving only a few people to work. In fact, they worked faster than before.

When they returned, it was already very late. Most people went back to their rooms to sleep. Because many people drank alcohol, Schiller woke up early the next morning and found that no one was there. Everyone was still sleeping.

However, his biological clock was very stable, so he planned to make something to eat first. Just as he was checking the ingredients in the refrigerator, he suddenly heard footsteps on the stairs.

He turned his head and saw an unexpected person, who turned out to be Reed.

Schiller and Reed were not actually very familiar with each other. They might have some intersections at work, but they had no contact at all in private.

But as soon as Reed appeared, Schiller knew that he was coming for him. This was not because he could read minds, but mainly because Reed's eyes were so sleepy that he could hardly open them. It was obvious that he had forced himself to turn on the computer. None of these scientists had a normal work and rest schedule.

Since he was not used to getting up early, it was needless to say why he got up so early and went downstairs so early.

Schiller had planned to make a sandwich, but seeing the situation, he decided to just fry an egg. Out of politeness, he fried four eggs in total, made two cups of coconut milk, and brought them to the island next to him.

The smell of the fried eggs made Reed sober up a little. He smiled at Schiller a little embarrassedly. The two sat on both sides of the island, eating breakfast and chatting.

There was no need to say much about Reed's purpose. In fact, he didn't plan to say anything, because Susan's performance yesterday had already made him believe that Schiller could read minds.

Speaking of Reed Richards, many people's first reaction is that he is a troublemaker, but many of the more famous disasters caused by him were not caused by Mr. Fantastic in the main universe, that is, they were not Marvel's official history, but parallel universes.

But it doesn't mean that Reed in the main universe is so good. He contributed half of the Illuminati's bad reputation. In earlier comics, he once took all the team's funds to stock speculation and lost everything. In short, he is not a good person.

In Schiller's view, Reed is not a mental patient, nor does he have personality defects. His mental state is also very stable, and he is considered a normal person.

But his biggest problem is that he lacks a sense of responsibility, which is also the main reason why he is so talented but unpopular and lacks personal charm.

The lack of responsibility is not only reflected in major events, but the impact in daily life is actually more serious.

Maybe many people have met such people in real life. They have high academic qualifications and strong skills. They are not stupid at first glance. Their mental state is also quite stable, and they even show unparalleled talents in some aspects, but you just are not attracted to them.

This is actually very counterintuitive, because social status, personal ability, emotional stability, and emotional appeal are all important components of personal charm. People who usually have these things must be very popular. Even if they only have one or two of them, they will be very likable and popular.

For example, some people have no talent, but their emotions are extremely stable, as if there is a solution to everything. When you see him, you feel that there is nothing in this world that cannot be overcome. Such people must have many friends who have known each other for many years.

Or some people have bad tempers and love to go crazy, but they are unique in their professional fields and have strong abilities. Many people will be unconsciously attracted by his talents and surround him.

Let's look at Reed again. His talent is very famous, he has a very high status in the scientific community, and his emotions are very stable. Even Stark, who looks down on him the most, has never seen him get angry. At most, he is a little weird.

He also has no obvious symptoms of bad behavior, such as not being able to read the atmosphere, not being able to understand the emotions conveyed by others, etc.

If this is the case, why is he not popular?

In fact, the answer is that he subconsciously does not realize that he should be responsible for all his words and deeds.

For example, everyone has a time when he speaks without thinking. Stark scolded the camera of the Apple phone for not being as good as a professional camera, and Pepper happened to take a photo with the Apple phone next to him. This scene is very embarrassing, just like you just said something bad about someone to others, and that person appeared.

Stark's reply of turning shit into gold sounds particularly absurd and seems to have no emotional intelligence. Fortunately, Pepper has high emotional intelligence and replied half-jokingly and half-reprimandingly, and the matter was over.

However, the most important thing is Stark's attitude of redemption after he found out that he had said something wrong. No matter what method he used to redeem it, or whether he could actually take back what he said, the key is this attitude.

But if it was Reed, after he cursed something and found that someone else was using it, he would not try to redeem it. He did not think that he was responsible for what he said, nor did he think that he was responsible for the harm caused to someone by his words.

This would lead to him saying something that hurt someone, and the other person was waiting for him to redeem it, but he didn't even have an embarrassed expression and forgot about it two seconds later.

Over time, there would be countless such things, and others were not stupid, so why did they have to be stabbed around him? Naturally, there would be fewer and fewer people around him.

Reed was also very puzzled. He really didn't do anything bad to these people, and he himself had no ill intentions, but everyone suddenly ignored him.

When he went to ask these people again, they just looked like "Don't you know what you did?".

He felt even more confused. What did I do? I didn't hinder you, and I didn't quarrel with you. Why are you so bad to me?

Little do they know that adults actually understand that you can't be a person who never hurts others emotionally, whether intentionally or unintentionally, it is impossible to do so. The key is your apology after you hurt others.

Emotion is the opposite of justice. It is said that justice delayed is not justice, but it is not the case in emotions. Apologies that come late are apologies. Even if you apologize ten years later, even if the person you apologized to may not remember what you did to him, as long as you are honest and apologize to him, he will always think you are a sincere person.

Although expressing apologies does not completely make up for the damage, human emotions are contagious. If he can perceive your true guilt and be touched by this emotion, he will naturally be able to eliminate the resentment in his heart, and at least give him a reason to forgive you.

Even if you don't really feel guilty, even if you pretend to be sorry, it is in line with social moral requirements. In layman's terms, feeling sorry for hurting others is one of the important criteria for society to define good people, and you have to pretend.

People who obviously have all the personality charm are not popular, mainly because they don't even pretend, and they don't even have an attitude.

At the beginning, many people may be confused by appearances, thinking that this person is really talented, and it is my honor to be connected with him, and they unconsciously chase them.

But people who lack responsibility can't hide their fox tails. They don't consider anyone's feelings, and their unapologetic performance is sharper than anything else. As long as you get in touch with them for a while, you will feel that they are more unreasonable than people with bad tempers, and even feel that they are completely unlike humans. The fear brought by this sense of alienation will drive people to flee.

Some people are like Reed, who don't think they should be responsible, and some people realize that they should be responsible, but they evade responsibility.

For example, the saying "once said, water spilled" is a typical way of evading responsibility. Although it also warns people to think carefully before speaking, it is more often used as an excuse to evade responsibility when people are struggling to make amends after saying something without thinking.

Once said, water spilled. Water cannot be taken back, but you can't just splash water on someone in the cold winter and walk away. If you don't hand over a towel, you should at least apologize, right?

Of course, there are definitely people who say that I have low emotional intelligence and can't speak well. The more I want to make up for my previous verbal mistakes, the more I get angry. It's better to shut up.

This is actually a typical evasive mentality, which is of no benefit to interpersonal communication. The key to apologizing is to show attitude, that is, emotional infection, not logical persuasion.

Think about it carefully. Many people in life start crying after getting into trouble, and they can't even speak properly. People around them will comfort them instead. No one apologizes like a speech, and they have to tell the whole story.

Rather, the more you talk about logic and facts at this time, the more likely it is to shirk responsibility. It is better to express emotions directly and use emotions to infect others, so that they realize that you are indeed sad for the harm you caused before, and express that this is not your original intention.

There is another advantage to doing this. If you bring up the old account in the future, you can completely ignore the fact that you got into trouble and focus on describing how sad you were crying at that time. If you are a little shameless, you can also express the meaning of "I was so sad at that time, but you still care about that matter."

This is indeed very unreasonable, but as I said, the secret of social repression is never to reason.

In Schiller's experience, Reed's lack of responsibility is the most serious symptom he has ever seen, which has permeated all aspects of his life and has even seriously affected his daily life.

The most intuitive thing is that he has no friends.

The Fantastic Four was not formed, and they were not bound together by superpowers. Reed has almost no friends in his life, and the comics never mention that he has any personal friends.

In fact, if Reed Richards was not so talented, he would have already rolled out to the streets to beg for food due to his lack of responsibility.

But it is precisely because Reed is so talented that this is an unsolvable knot, and Schiller has to force him to untie it, because humans still need Reed's wisdom. If he is not treated, how can technology progress? How can humans develop?

The most important thing is, without this famous cosmic destruction engine of the multiverse, what can he use to threaten those cosmic administrators?